Joy!
I loved this chapter because of it's emphasis on joy.
Joy is such an important thing to have as a part of our everyday life.
Without joy we feel hopelessness and despair.
Without joy little hinderances seem like huge obstacles.
Without joy little disappointments seem depressing.
Without joy offenses turn into bitterness.
Without joy aches seem like unbearable pain.
Joy is so much more than a feeling.
So many people think that if they just had a bigger house, more material possessions, better behaved kids, nicer car, better clothes, new appliances, new electronics.....they would be happy.
But the problem is, these things are so temporal, and they only produce a want for more, bigger and better.
But joy isn't that way, joy is joy all the time, despite our circumstances and possessions.
It is a deep inner peace that sustains through the tough times, the ugly times, the sad times, the provoking times, the annoying times. Joy is ETERNAL.
How to be a joyful wife? WOW!
This is not an easy one for me.
It is so easy to focus on being happy. Happiness needs to be recognized, happiness needs to be paid back, happiness needs to be served, happiness needs to be pampered. But joy doesn't need these things. Because it's deep, it's deeper than circumstances.
In this chapter Debi asked if our husbands were still married to that 'sweet little thing' that he first married. I have to honestly say that most of the time 'no'! I could make excuses that life is so much more stressful and hectic now, but that shouldn't affect my joy.
When I read this chapter it was a conformation for me of what the Lord has already been speaking to me about. I have been learning not to let the happenings of the day negatively affect my attitude. This is not joy, this is not life for my husband and our children.
The old saying goes, "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy". This is a true statement, maybe not in the way it was written to be. But I believe that as a wife and a mom, I can positively or negatively affect the atmosphere of our home. This doesn't mean that you will never be disappointed or sad but it means that those things will not bring you to the depths of despair, they will not take your joy.
Debi said to do a research on the word joy.
What verse is your favorite?
Mine is Habakkuk 3:17-18 17
Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines,
though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food,
though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls,
Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior.
The Sovereign LORD is my strength; He makes my feet like the feet of a deer,
He enables me to go on the heights.
That sums it all up for me!