Even as young as I was I knew that my life was going to be different, special, set apart. I was riding along with mom in the baler when she first told me that when I became "of age" that I wasn't going to be dating, but rather saving my heart and emotions for one man. Doing so in the process of courtship as an alternate option. I was about 10 or 11 and I didn't really know what it all meant, but I knew it would change my life long term and that I was going to be different, but in a good way.
SIDE NOTE: For those of you who my have been wondering I have Never regretted my parents decision to protect me, to protect my heart. It has meant SO much to me to know that they care about who I am, and who I will become.
Courtship can be looked at from many different angles and explained in many different ways, but the main point to it all is to SAVE yourself for ONE person.
I have had a couple of people come up to me and say "do you have a boyfriend?" Umm... nope (how are you supposed to answer a question like that?). Usually the conversation is dropped there (thankfully :) but one person actually took it further when I said "no" and said "well do you have a crush?" Hee Hee "well I'm sure you'll find someone, there are lots of good looking guys around" Thanks... I really needed the encouragement... Ha, Ha. (Umm... not really) :)
People seem to think something is wrong if a girl doesn't have a boyfriend (or the other way around). Why? Why is this normal?
Should it be normal to waste my time on short term relationships when I can be doing something productive (like helping my family :)? Should it be normal to give pieces of my heart away when I could be saving ALL of myself for the man that I will be (Lord willing) spending the rest of my life with?
Proverbs 31:12 says:
She will do him (her husband) good and not evil all the days of her life.
All the days of her life! It doesn't just start when you get married... it starts now.
I would rather be able to look my husband in the eyes and tell him that I saved everything for him. Than "have fun" now and give pieces of my heart away. Pieces that I will want back when God brings the right man along. It's just not worth it.
Some people may ask, "Well how are you ever going to find a guy or know he is the right one if you don't date around?" Well let me tell you that my God is bigger than that. He knows where my husband is and He will bring him to me in His own good time. I don't have to go looking for him by "dating around" if it is God's will for me to marry... He will make sure that I get married! No, it hasn't always been easy to rely on God and trust in His perfect timing, but I'm learning more everyday how to give the Lord my hopes and my dreams.
Because He knows best, and He loves me most, so His opinion should be and IS the only one that matters.